jus saw this from my teacher's blog, he has become a father... :)
i am really happy for him, he will be a good father.. really wish him the best...
an particularly thought tht this para was so so touching... hope there is no copyright or stuff..
Marriage is the first step towards maturity. Marriage is when a person puts away his individualism and shares his entire life and lifestyle with another. Although your spouse does not rule over you, you would still voluntarily become accountable to him or her. Your time is no longer your own, so you would ask permission to spend it with friends or do frivolous things. You need to give and take, and love despite mistakes and arguments, and grow to overcome detrimental weaknesses, or at least to accomodate each other's flaws. That is the part when it is no longer "I" but "we".
Yet this is only a small part of the journey. Even between a husband and wife, the laying down of rights may not be truly selfless and unconditional. No matter how you view it, the spouse has something to offer, be it companionship, sexual affections, a listening ear, so in a way, each gets one end of the bargain, so to speak. But the moment a couple decides to have children, I think there must be a certain progress in maturity. After all, you are looking at incurring a higher cost of expenditure, interrupted sleep, potential heartache, investment of time, and many other factors that would appear as a bad deal to most people. Hence the government dangles a carrot of money to alleviate part of the pain. And all of this for a possibility of "ROI" two plus decades down the road should your child turn out filial, and intangible feelings of warmth and fuzziness of family joy. To be able to let your love crystallize into a baby is to be able to lay down your individual rights, and even your rights as a wedded couple to do your own things, without recompense but with guaranteed troubles. So all those prenatal, postnatal or whatever-natal courses, though useful in imparting skills and knowledge, are non-essential, since those from our parents and grandparents' generations never had this privilege, and didn't do a bad job, except maybe the occasional absent father. It is not about skills, or knowledge, that essentially are picked up on the job. Neither is it about finances, because when a couple says that they can't afford to have a baby, it probably means that they can't give up spending on themselves.
It is merely about the willingness to sacrifice of oneself.
i mean... thts life isnt it.
wonder my life along the way will be as such... learning to grow up and mature. happily living, working, caring and sharing.
i have to say although marriage is the first step to maturity, being in love, having a partner in yr life, studying and then graduating, working and then climbing up the ladder, getting sick and fighting the battle, all marks maturity.. different type of maturity, different levels.
jus saw this from my teacher's blog, he has become a father... :)
i am really happy for him, he will be a good father.. really wish him the best...
an particularly thought tht this para was so so touching... hope there is no copyright or stuff..
Marriage is the first step towards maturity. Marriage is when a person puts away his individualism and shares his entire life and lifestyle with another. Although your spouse does not rule over you, you would still voluntarily become accountable to him or her. Your time is no longer your own, so you would ask permission to spend it with friends or do frivolous things. You need to give and take, and love despite mistakes and arguments, and grow to overcome detrimental weaknesses, or at least to accomodate each other's flaws. That is the part when it is no longer "I" but "we".
Yet this is only a small part of the journey. Even between a husband and wife, the laying down of rights may not be truly selfless and unconditional. No matter how you view it, the spouse has something to offer, be it companionship, sexual affections, a listening ear, so in a way, each gets one end of the bargain, so to speak. But the moment a couple decides to have children, I think there must be a certain progress in maturity. After all, you are looking at incurring a higher cost of expenditure, interrupted sleep, potential heartache, investment of time, and many other factors that would appear as a bad deal to most people. Hence the government dangles a carrot of money to alleviate part of the pain. And all of this for a possibility of "ROI" two plus decades down the road should your child turn out filial, and intangible feelings of warmth and fuzziness of family joy. To be able to let your love crystallize into a baby is to be able to lay down your individual rights, and even your rights as a wedded couple to do your own things, without recompense but with guaranteed troubles. So all those prenatal, postnatal or whatever-natal courses, though useful in imparting skills and knowledge, are non-essential, since those from our parents and grandparents' generations never had this privilege, and didn't do a bad job, except maybe the occasional absent father. It is not about skills, or knowledge, that essentially are picked up on the job. Neither is it about finances, because when a couple says that they can't afford to have a baby, it probably means that they can't give up spending on themselves.
It is merely about the willingness to sacrifice of oneself.
i mean... thts life isnt it.
wonder my life along the way will be as such... learning to grow up and mature. happily living, working, caring and sharing.
i have to say although marriage is the first step to maturity, being in love, having a partner in yr life, studying and then graduating, working and then climbing up the ladder, getting sick and fighting the battle, all marks maturity.. different type of maturity, different levels.
Pamela a simple 'yet not really so' girl
21 going 22
NTU(accountancy)graduate brand new in the the working world
loves being loved
loads of nonsense full of craps
aims to achieve the best
wanna achieve all her dreams big and little
